In a relationship, you are suppose to build each other up, not tear each other down. You are suppose to grow together and be able to count on one another. Do you feel like you are trapped in the idea of how a relationship should be and not actually in a real relationship? Here are some signs that your significant other is more toxic than than beneficial to your health.
Your social skill have changed
You use to be able to strike up a conversation with anyone. You use to be able to find a common interest with anyone.
Now, you barely talk. You aren’t that chatterbox outgoing person that you were before because now you fear saying the wrong thing. You fear that what you say will be misinterpreted. You fear that your significant other will think wrong about what you say to others.
You feel drained in every way possible the majority of the time
You have little to no motivation left for anything, not even something as simple as taking a shower. You are running on a 1% and anything feels like a demanding task. You just feel empty.
They have literally rid your soul of it’s will to go on…
Restful nights are completely non-existent
You don’t remember when the last time you went to bed happy and actually slept. You are up all night wondering what you did wrong earlier that day. When you finally do fall asleep, it usually comes with tears and anxiety.
Being with someone toxic who is slowly dragging you down means that your life is surrounded with a scary amount of negativity, which prohibits you from being able to sleep peacefully
Your toxic significant other is affecting your sleep and now your health to a scary degree.
You have lost a lot of friends
You find yourself making excuses to not go out with your friends anymore. As much as you want to, you also don’t want to be accused of doing something wrong by your significant other. Your friends don’t recognize the person you have become and tell you how worried they are about you often, but you are too afraid to tell them how you feel, because you are afraid of what your significant other will think if they found out.
You notice that less and less friends even call you anymore to invite you out.
Your significant other is literally isolating you.
Worry has become your best friend
You constantly worry and have anxiety about everything. Literally everything. You worry so much that you make yourself physically sick over it. You feel like your whole day was wasted and filled with anxiety
You feel your anxiety taking complete control, but you have no emotional or physical energy to address it.
Your physical and mental health has plumeted
You feel unwell most of the time. You always seem to have something wrong. You always find yourself in the emergency room or doctor’s office.
You just don’t feel like yourself anymore, and just want everything to end because that seems easier.
They are literally draining your health to the point where you NEED to depend on them.
Disappearing feels like the only option
You feel like you are stuck and can’t get out the the toxic cycle you are in, so ‘disappearing’ seems like the only logical solution.
You feel like no one will miss you anyways, so why not.
They have have literally sucked all the self worth you use to have, out of you.
You constantly question yourself
Even when you haven’t done anything wrong, you blame yourself all of the time. You blame yourself for your significant other’s actions. You also blame yourself for the reason why they don’t show you the love you show them.
You honestly feel like you did something so horrible to make them not love you…. Even though you know deep down that you didn’t…
They are able to manipulate you into thinking whatever they want you too think, when they want you to think it.
You always feel like something is missing in your life
You feel like your life is always incomplete, like there is something missing, but you don’t know what. You feel like nothing will get better.
As much as you want things to get better and you want to fill that void, you have no idea how.
You need to reach out
I am here to tell you guys that I really know how you feel. That sound cliche, but I have been where you are and it’s hard. Beyond hard, but you can get out of it and find yourself again.
You are worth more than your significant other is making you feel. You are important and you matter.
I know it’s hard, but you need to find that strength you once had to leave that toxic relationship, because it’ll only get harder if you don’t.
You need to trust your gut and act on it, not ignore it. You have more strength than you realize, you just have to find a support system to help you remember that.
If you are having thoughts of suicide, please please please reach out to loved ones or call the National Suicide prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.