I’m sure everyone has a narcissist in their life, the question is, how to identify one. There are many signs of someone being a narcissist. This should help you to easily identify if someone in your life is a narcissist. It can be hard to determine if someone close to you is one; love or better yet, the idea of love will blind you from truly seeing.
A narcissist is conceited. They’ll talk about themselves in every way in a conversation. They will hardly let you talk, and when, and when they do, if you’re not in agreement with them, they will belittle you or your opinion is dismissed or ignored. They always have to feel like they know more.
Everyone has that little bad of interrupting in a conversation, but a narcissist will interrupt and quickly change the topic to themselves and genuinely has no interest in what you said.
They hate following rules, guidelines, or a schedule. They will break appointments often. They don’t follow rules, unless it’s their rules, because they always think they are right.
Violation of Boundaries
They have no regard for others feelings, thoughts or opinions. They have no respect of others property. They will break something that isn’t theirs because they don’t care to be cautious with it, and they act like it’s no big deal.
They also break promises and obligations repeatedly.
They like to do/say things to impress others by making themselves look good. They will stretch the truth or just straight up lie to make themselves look good.
They often expect preferential treatment from others. They want to be catered to. They think the world revolves around them and their needs.
They are persuasive. They are interested in you for their own gratification. When they get bored of you, they’ll drop you, and go on to the next. Most of the time, they’ll already have someone else while they are still with you. They keep you around because they are comfortable with how you are so willing to cater to them. They think they are too good not to have many romantic options.
They spread negative emotions for attention. They will get upset over small things, especially if it disagrees with their opinions. They are sensitive to criticism and will become angry over it. However, they are quick to judge, criticize, ridicule and blame others. Some narcissists are emotionally abusive. By making you feel inferior, they are boosting their arrogant egos.
They will make decisions for you to suite their needs. They may use their partner, friend or child to meet unreasonable self-serving needs or to cover up their mistakes or flaws. Another way they use manipulation is through guilt. They will guilt trip you over the things they’ve done for you.
If someone you know identifies with this list, then you might have a narcissist on your hands. If that person is your significant other… I’m sorry to say that this is going to be hard.
Stay strong. There are a lot of self-help books/articles to help you stand your ground with a narcissist.