Lately I have heard a lot of talk about how being a stay at home mom is not hard work. Wrong!
I am only a first time mom and of one and if I think this can be difficult, I can’t imagine how a SAHM of 2 or more kids feels. Those women deserve a prize. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a stay at home mom and would rather do this than work for many reasons, one of them being that I trust very few people and don’t trust daycare at all.
You have to have patience for this “job”, a lot of patience and compassion. Your client is very demanding and has no self control. LOL
Being a SAHM is hard physically & emotionally. You’re lucky if you get a full 5 hours straight of sleep but you learn to function off of 3. You forget to eat sometimes as well. Oh and showers are like vacation. Luckily My daughter loves taking baths with me now so I get to shower every other day.
I think the hardest part of being a SAHM is when your baby won’t stop crying and you can’t seem to figure why.
I remember 2 weeks after I brought my daughter home, she was crying one night, non stop. She started around 8 pm and she cried until around 1 am. I tried everything and nothing seem to make her feel better. I was so overwhelmed and exhausted, at one point, I cried with her. I think babies know when you’re most tired and decided, that’s the night that they are going to pull an all-nighter.
Just recently when my husband and I decided we needed a date night, our daughter decided that we didn’t. We started getting ready to leave around 7 pm and didn’t actually leave the house until around 11:30 pm. Averie was not happy that night and would not go to sleep or let anyone else hold her but me.
If you are a breastfeeding momma, then you know how difficult it can be. My daughter wanted to nurse 24/7. When breastfeeding, it makes both of you tired so imagine breastfeeding 24/7. Exhausting.
You learn to really multi-task. I can cook a full meal while holding a frustrated baby. I can pretty much do everything with one hand now. Definitely not easy.
My daughter is in a “I want Momma” phase. So anytime I walk away from her, she cries. When I put her down after 45 straight minutes of holding her, she cries. When I try to hand her to daddy when he gets home from work, she’ll smile and interact with him for about 10 minutes and then she’ll cry.
Being a SAHM isn’t hard just for the work you do but for the strain that your significant other is willing to endure so you can be a SAHM. I couldn’t imagine being a single mom. I am very thankful for my Husband. He took extra hours at work so I could stay home with our daughter and his son.
Another thing that can be difficult is not having a social life. I feel like I talk to more people I don’t know on the Internet than I do to people I actually know.
For the first 2 months of my daughters life, I never went anywhere, except to doctors appointments. I felt that it was easier not to pack a diaper bag and lug her down the stairs. I am definitely a home body! I do go stir crazy at times though. The few times I did plan to leave the house, my daughter decided that she was going to be a crab that day. Basically she decides when I go anywhere or how long I stay somewhere. (Baby dictator) LOL
I never get to watch what I want. I know every song from Mickey Mouse Club House.
I don’t get to eat when I want.
I definitely don’t get to sleep when I want. Especially now since I am transitioning my daughter from her Rock n Play to her crib.
I don’t get to go to the bathroom when I want.
I pretty much don’t get to do anything I want when I want. Unless it’s nap time.
There are my thoughts. I just wanted to throw my input in about the whole SAHM thing. It is by no means easy.
*I noticed that most the mom’s that talk about SAHM’s have never been one full time.
It’s hard but I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else. ❤